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Sex education: talking with your children
Many parents feel nervous when their child asks about bodies or where babies come from. You do not need to be an expert. You need to be there and to answer calmly, in words that suit their age.
What sex education means
Sex education is not one big talk that happens once. It is lots of small conversations that start in the early years and change as your child grows. It covers the body, feelings, relationships, respect and safety.
The World Health Organization (WHO) explains that accurate, age-appropriate information helps children and young people protect their health and safety and respect others. The WHO also notes that this kind of education does not lead young people to start having sex earlier.
Matching their age
Every child is different, but as a general guide:
- Young children: the correct names for body parts, which parts are private, and that their body belongs to them
- Early school years: simple answers about where babies come from, what friendship and respect mean
- Before puberty: what changes puberty will bring to their body and feelings, so they are not caught off guard
- Teenagers: relationships, consent, respect, staying safe online and where to find reliable information
Body safety and consent
One of the most important things you can teach is that your child's body belongs to them. They can say no to a touch they do not want, even a hug from a relative. Nobody should ask them to keep a secret that makes them feel uncomfortable.
Tell them they can always tell you anything without getting into trouble. Help them name other adults in their life who are safe to talk to. In this way they also learn to respect other people's boundaries.
A few tips for the conversation
Many parents find these helpful:
- Answer what your child is asking, with no more detail than they need
- Keep your tone calm, even if the question catches you off guard
- Ask first, “What do you already know about it?”, so you know where they are starting from
- Do not make it a matter of shame or a joke, so they feel they can come back to you
How we can help
At Safe Space Psychology Center in Latsia you can come as parents for counselling sessions. We will talk through your worries, what is expected at your child's age, and how to start the conversation in a way that fits your family and your values.
If your child or teenager has questions or worries they would rather share with someone outside the home, we can also see them individually. Sessions take place in person or online, privately or through GeSY where it applies.
If you are worried about a child's safety
If a child tells you something that worries you, listen calmly, tell them they did the right thing by telling you and that it is not their fault. If you believe a child is in danger, call 112 straight away. For urgent medical care, go to the A&E department of your nearest hospital.
Frequently asked questions
If we talk early, will it put ideas in my child's head?
No. The WHO notes that age-appropriate education does not lead to early sexual behaviour. Instead, it helps children protect themselves and ask for help.
What if I do not know the answer to a question?
You can say, “Good question, let me think about it and I will tell you.” Then come back to it. This shows your child they can come to you with trust.
My child never asks anything. Should I start?
Yes, gently. A book, a scene in a film or a friend's pregnancy can open the conversation naturally.
Can we come as parents only?
Yes. That is often the best first step.
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This page is for information only and does not replace an assessment by a psychologist or doctor.